Making the birth of your children your own

In our modern times, scientific advances are seen as progress. Thus, in many countries, hospital birth has become the norm. In this context, when you do not behave « like everyone else », it can be difficult, or even heroic, to follow your heart’s call to give your baby a birth free of violence, disruption and the technological trappings of the medical world perceived as a guarantee of safety.

What enabled me to achieve this, whatever the cost and the context, was my awareness that, by offering my baby a birth with all the respect and love he deserved, I was helping to imprint in his subconscious a positive imprint of self-confidence and confidence in life that would remain engraved in him forever. This was the inner drive that led me to adapt in all circumstances, so as to be able to welcome my baby in peace and tranquility, over and above the difficulties that sometimes presented themselves along the way. Everything else was secondary to me, especially what other people might think, or things that were supposedly obligatory or forbidden, popular beliefs that were often erroneous, socially conveyed fears, norms, psychological pressures or doomsday scenarios.

To experience birth naturally and peacefully, I had to make the physiological phenomenon of childbirth my own. It was an apprenticeship, a discovery, an inner conquest, a victory over my own fears. It required me to trust in Life, to willingly let go of what was about to happen, and to develop a loving awareness, in awe of the beauty of the natural, quasi-miraculous phenomenon that was taking place : the coming into the world of a new human being. In this sense, a birth is a gift from the Creator, and childbirth requires learning to accompany the natural process that is now unfolding, simply, patiently and delicately.

Birth is a sacred event that connects us to the wonder of Creation.

Confident in Life that, by a true miracle of nature, allows new human beings to come into the world,

aware that the way a child comes into the world is the image of its relationship to the world,

aware that the way a child is welcomed at birth is deeply imprinted on it as the way the world receives it in its new life,

constant in the courage required to assume the full responsibility of childbirth as a couple,

we have decided to offer our children a birth with the Respect they deserve, by choosing to welcome them in the gentleness, peace and intimacy of our conjugal love.

The rightness of this choice has grown stronger over the births and the years.

After welcoming eleven children in twenty years, born on four continents, the positive impact of a natural, peaceful birth became clear to us.

Experiencing birth naturally and peacefully strongly favors the awakening of the newborn, then the child’s self-confidence and confidence in Life, giving the adult-to-be the will and courage to live life to the full.

Here is a video extracted from the DVD « Experiencing birth naturally and peacefully »

This article was written by Claire Loiseleur who is mother of eleven children all born in conjugal intimacy by choosing to offer our babies a birth with all the respect and love they deserve and co-author of the book:

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The book AUTONOMOUS NATURAL CHILDBIRTH AS A COUPLE is part of the Lights for a New World books presented on the Youtube channel and Facebook page entitled : Lights for a New World

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