To offer my baby a respectful birth

The fruit of the experience of eleven Autonomous Natural Childbirths experienced as a couple

Having welcomed eleven children, all born in the intimacy of our marriage, by choice, to offer our babies a birth with all the respect and love they deserve, here is the fruit of this fabulous experience. These articles and videos are intended as a help and source of inspiration for all future parents who aspire to offer their baby a respectful birth.

Natural Birth Within the Intimacy of the Couple

A testimonial book sharing our journey of welcoming eleven children in Peace, Respect and Love

We chose to welcome our eleven children in Peace, Respect, and Love, in the privacy of our marital intimacy, in order to preserve the well-being and full respect of the mother and baby, and to give this happy event a sacred character. Aware that our experience could be of interest to other future parents who wish to offer their baby a birth with all the Respect and Love they deserve, we have written a book, which is presented here, with a 57-page excerpt…

The path toward natural childbirth experienced as a couple

What life taught me in order to offer each of my eleven babies a respected birth

Life has guided us toward our deep aspiration to offer our babies a wonderful birth with all the respect and love they deserve. In this article, I share a video where I explain how life gradually allowed me to make the birthing process my own, even though at the beginning—when I was pregnant with my first baby—I knew absolutely nothing about it, at a time when the Internet didn’t even exist yet…

Experiencing birth naturally and peacefully

An authentic testimonial documentary of childbirth experienced in the intimacy of marital love

In 2009, when we were expecting our ninth child, we felt compelled to film the birth of the baby to come, in order to share our experience and expertise in childbirth experienced naturally and peacefully. Then, using the video footage, we created a wonderful educational and practical DVD to show the step-by-step process of a Natural Autonomous Birth experienced as a couple. This 97-minute documentary is presented here with a 5-minute excerpt.

Reclaiming the birth of your children

A conscious and responsible choice to offer our babies a respectful birth

Experiencing birth naturally and peacefully required me to embrace in my body the physiological phenomenon of childbirth. It was a learning process, a discovery, an inner conquest, a victory over my own fears. This article discusses this subject and allows you to watch the video that serves as a prologue to the documentary EXPERIENCING BIRTH NATURALLY AND PEACEFULLY.

The magic of a birth experienced in marital intimacy

Breaking the silence to dare to show an unassisted birth

When we were expecting our ninth child, we realized that our audiovisual testimony about how we experience births in the privacy of our marital intimacy could be useful to future parents, because understanding what will happen during childbirth can reduce fears and apprehensions as the big day approaches. That is why we made arrangements to film the arrival of our ninth child. This article presents the introductory video from the documentary EXPERIENCING BIRTH NATURALLY AND PEACEFULLY…

For a birth without violence

Tribute to Frédérick Leboyer, pioneer of respectful birth

Frédérick Leboyer is a French obstetrician and gynecologist who developed a gentle method of childbirth that he described as “without violence,” allowing newborns to come into the world without trauma. He wrote a book entitled “For a Birth Without Violence,” which inspired us to offer our babies a birth with all the respect and love they deserve…

A baby fully respected at birth arrives sleeping

A positive imprint anchored in the newborn’s subconscious

It has been discovered that, in principle, if it is not disturbed, the fetus sleeps during the phase of uterine contractions that precedes childbirth. We have found that children fully respected at birth generally arrive asleep. This was the case for nine of our eleven babies. In a video montage, we show the birth of our tenth child, who remained asleep for ten minutes after birth. The images speak for themselves…

Giving birth at home when no midwife is available

When the absence of a midwife becomes an opportunity to become autonomous in childbirth

When you want to give birth at home and can’t find a midwife willing to come to your home on the big day, what can you do? Do you ultimately resign yourself to giving birth in the hospital, even though you don’t really want to? Or do you find another way to give birth at home despite everything? Life is there to accompany us when we need it and help us grow…

Should you let go or take charge of your birth?

Finding the right balance between calm acceptance and active preparation for a natural and peaceful birth

For a physiological birth to go as smoothly as possible, you need to find the right balance between letting go of what will happen and doing everything you can to take control of what will happen…

Does the body know how to give birth naturally?

Adopting a natural lifestyle for a smooth and harmonious birth

In discussion forums on the subject of childbirth, we often see the following sentence: “Don’t worry, your body KNOWS how to give birth.” And of course it’s true… All women, and indeed all female mammals, are equipped with a body in which all the processes of pregnancy and childbirth are already programmed. So why don’t all women in the world have wonderfully smooth deliveries?

The importance of preparing well for childbirth

The subtle but essential factors for welcoming your child into the world in the best conditions

Childbirth can be compared to a sporting event, an exam, or even a concert. We all know that to pass your high school exams, you have to work hard and revise your lessons thoroughly. Furthermore, it is best to arrive rested, calm, relaxed, and confident on the day of the exam. Childbirth is like many other things in life: the better you prepare for it, the more likely it is to go well…

Physiological childbirth: a baby comes in its own time

Understanding that the child itself chooses the exact moment of its birth

Lorsqu’arrive la fin de la grossesse, le bébé se fait de plus en plus pesant pour la femme enceinte et on se demande chaque jour quand il va pointer son nez dehors. Cependant, à moins de connaître par des voies spirituelles la date exacte de la naissance, c’est à tout moment que l’enfant peut décider de venir. Que l’on soit impatiente que la naissance se produise ou au contraire, que l’on ne se sente pas encore prête à accueillir si vite le bébé, la date de la naissance de l’enfant est, en fait, déjà inscrite dans le grand calendrier cosmique. L’enfant viendra à son heure, que cela nous paraisse précipité ou tardif…

The concept of time in physiological childbirth

Getting in tune with the natural rhythms of birth

The human body has its own intelligence. In particular, it is equipped with what is known as the autonomic nervous system, which is capable of performing all vital functions without our consent or control. It is ultimately a kind of magic that we know very little about. The phenomena of childbirth and delivery follow the same processes that allow our mammalian cousins to give birth in nature without medical intervention. This is why, in order to achieve a harmonious birth without unnecessary complications, it is essential to let the physiological processes unfold at their own pace.

How to reduce labor pain

Using natural approaches for a gentler birth

At a time when epidural anesthesia has almost become the norm, some women are realizing the benefits of giving birth without an epidural. On the other hand, and this is what can rightly scare some women, when you don’t take advantage of the “ease” of an epidural, you are faced with the natural phenomenon of childbirth, which can be potentially painful. What can be done during pregnancy to minimize pain on the big day?

Reducing the risk of hemorrhage during childbirth

Strengthening the uterus and respecting its healing process to preserve precious blood energy

Statistical and official data reveal that postpartum hemorrhage is the leading cause of death among women in childbirth. It is therefore essential to understand the phenomenon of blood loss during childbirth and to take the necessary measures to limit it…

Overcoming your fears of unassisted childbirth

Developing mindful control to welcome your baby naturally and peacefully

At first, the unknown is scary, and this is true for everything in life. When we do something for the first time, we always have to overcome our apprehensions and anxieties. The first times are the most difficult, the ones that require us to push ourselves. When you become a mother, there will be the first time you give birth. When you are not yet familiar with the phenomenon of childbirth in your own body, you may find yourself overwhelmed by all kinds of anxieties. So what can you do?

Taking charge of your baby’s birth conditions

Learning to navigate your labor toward greater autonomy

All women are capable of imagining an “ideal birth” where everything goes smoothly, where the setting is pleasant and the people around them are kind… But how can this beautiful dream become a reality? Personally, in my life, it is through autonomy that I have felt truly free to steer my own course. When you depend only on yourself, you no longer have the excuse of blaming anyone else for anything. However, in any field, autonomy is the result of learning…

Why become self-reliant in childbirth?

The benefits of taking responsibility for the birth of your children

In developed countries, childbirth is considered a medical procedure, and medical assistance during childbirth has become the norm. Therefore, choosing Natural Autonomous Birth requires unwavering determination. Our internal motivation must far outweigh the benefits of medically assisted childbirth… Here are the reasons that led me to choose Natural Autonomous Birth for the birth of my eleven children.

Unassisted childbirth: remaining discreet to stay free

The power of silence to make a natural and peaceful birth possible

In the collective unconscious, giving birth in a hospital is reassuring and reasonable. On the other hand, giving birth at home without medical assistance is frightening and unreasonable. That is why, when choosing to give birth at home without medical assistance, it is best to remain discreet to avoid unnecessarily alarming those around you…

About registering an unassisted childbirth

How to register a home birth without running into administrative issues

When a baby is born, it is essential that it be registered as a new citizen in the civil registers of the state to which it belongs. When choosing Unassisted Birth, which we prefer to call Natural Autonomous Birth, it is essential to remain focused on the essential, namely the natural and peaceful course of the birth, and thus to ensure that the newborn is registered without attracting unnecessary problems with the administration.

Healing from the guilt of a childbirth gone wrong

Rising up and moving forward beyond the wounds and trauma that childbirth can cause

Childbirth is a challenge that requires us to surpass ourselves. In some cases, we feel happy with how the birth went. In other cases, we may feel intense guilt about what happened. We may then be consumed by remorse and regret for months or even years… So how can we heal this deep emotional wound within ourselves?

Tribute to Valoelle

Our ninth child, the heroine of our birth documentary, now returned to the Kingdom of Angels.

Valoelle, our ninth child, is the heroine of the documentary EXPERIENCING BIRTH NATURALLY AND PEACEFULLY. She was born in the privacy of our home and in front of cameras three days after Christmas 2009. She delighted us with her smiles and laughter for 99 days. Then she suddenly left this world three days after Good Friday. This article pays tribute to her and shares what her short life taught us about unconditional and eternal love…

This article was written by Claire Loiseleur, mother of eleven children all born within the heart of marital intimacy, through our conscious choice to offer our babies a birth with all the Love and Respect they deserve, and co-author of the book and documentary:

Filled with music and colours, and enriched with numerous captions and voice-over explanations, the documentary EXPERIENCING BIRTH NATURALLY AND PEACEFULLY beautifully complements the teachings shared in the book NATURAL BIRTH WITHIN THE INTIMACY OF THE COUPLE.

This film is available as a streaming video, with instant viewing through a private personal link offering unlimited access.

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The book GIVING BIRTH NATURALLY AND FREELY AS A COUPLE is part of the Lights for a New World books presented on the Youtube channel and Facebook page entitled : Lights for a New World

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