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The path to natural birth as a couple
When I was expecting my first baby, I was happy to know that I would soon be a mother, because I love babies. Being in good physical condition, I didn’t worry too much about giving birth. As I was still a student at the time, my challenge was to finish writing my end of studies dissertation before the baby arrived. I would have liked a home birth, but no one in the town where I lived at the time (Montpellier) was willing to do one. So, by default, I signed up at the clinic that seemed to me to be the least medicalized in Montpellier.
However, life has allowed that my first baby was born in the car. I didn’t feel any pain, I didn’t suffer, I didn’t scream, either during the « labor » phase, which we prefer to call « opening », nor when the child passed through. I just felt the child come out, and cried out : « Oh my baby, you’re here! » It was magical. When he arrived, the baby was asleep, as was the case for most of our children. (See the article Baby fully respected at birth arrives asleep on this subject). Then he woke up quietly. It was nighttime, just before dawn. He opened his eyes in the semi-darkness of the car and frowned, wondering what kind of world he’d landed in.
About ten minutes after the birth, we arrived at the clinic and found ourselves propelled into a world other than that of the gentleness and magic of welcoming life. The shock was violent for us, head-on. Mother and child were separated and transported to two different rooms. Traumatized, the baby began to cry, then to scream in distress before the helpless eyes of his father, who had nothing to say fearing of being expelled.
In the days that followed, wanting to understand what had happened to us, we bought Frédérick Leboyer’s book titled : « Birth without violence ». It was a revelation. (See the article For a birth without violence on this subject).
We promised ourselves that, in future, we would give all our children a birth with all the respect and love they deserve. Never again have any of our babies cried or screamed on the day of their birth.
Having found no one to accompany us for home births, we turned to Unassisted Childbirth, which we prefer to call Autonomous Natural Childbirth. With each new birth, we took on more and more ownership of the birthing process. We’ve overcome all our fears. We built an unshakable self confidence in this area, and we always managed to achieve our goal, which was to experience childbirth at the heart of our conjugal intimacy, in an atmosphere similar to that of our baby’s conception. (See the articles entitled Making the birth of your children your own and Overcoming fears of unassisted childbirth on these subjects).
It has been a real adventure. Our babies have been born on the four continents where we’ve lived, and in a wide variety of circumstances : at home, in a tent, in a mobile home, in a hotel room. Aware that the richness of our experience could help other couples to better experience the birth of their children, we filmed the birth of our ninth child in its entirety and produced a magnificent 85-minute DVD, complete with music. We then wrote a book to complement and explain what the DVD shows. (See the article Experiencing birth naturally and peacefully on this subject).
We hope that these two works, which we produced with a great deal of love, patience and perseverance, will help and inspire future parents, just as Frédérick Leboyer’s books helped us when we needed them.
In the video below, I explain how life has enabled me to become more and more familiar with the phenomenon of childbirth, whereas at the start, when I was pregnant with my first baby, I knew nothing at all about it, at a time when the Internet didn’t yet exist…
« Offering my baby a birth with all the Respect and Love he deserves…
and thus building in his subconscious
a positive imprint of confidence in oneself and in life
that will stay with him forever.. »
This article was written by Claire Loiseleur who is mother of eleven children all born in conjugal intimacy by choosing to offer our babies a birth with all the respect and love they deserve and co-author of the book:
GIVING BIRTH NATURALLY AND FREELY AS A COUPLE
Our journey to welcome eleven children in Peace, Respect and Love
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The book AUTONOMOUS NATURAL CHILDBIRTH AS A COUPLE is part of the Lights for a New World books presented on the Youtube channel and Facebook page entitled : Lights for a New World
The expression « Lights for a New World » is explained on the following page :
What I call the New World is an ideal world in which we dream of living, which means a better world, a more beautiful world, a fairer world, a more harmonious world, a more pleasant world to live in and, ultimately, a happier world. A world free of fear and ego games. A world governed by the forces of authentic, unconditional and universal love. A world where peace, joy, tolerance and benevolence have become the norm.
Gandhi said : « Be the change you want to see in the world », and it’s up to each of us to act at our own level to build this New World right now. Let’s stop criticizing everything we don’t like on this Earth: it’s a waste of time and energy!
Let’s put on our glasses of love, and together, let’s be the courageous builders of a better world, more and more in line with the ideal we feel in our hearts, knowing that, as Albert Schweitzer said: « The ideal remains for us what a star is for the sailor. It cannot be reached, but it remains a guide. »
