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giving BIRTH NATURALly and freely as a couple
For a birth without violence
In the days following the birth of our first child, we discovered a book entitled « Birth without violence », written by Frédérick Leboyer. This French obstetrician-gynecologist developed a gentle birthing method he called « without violence », enabling the newborn to come into the world without trauma.
Frédérick Leboyer focuses on the baby’s well-being, detailing the gestures that must be performed to ensure that this « odyssey at the end of which the child enters the world » is experienced without violence.
He emphasizes that the first gesture should be to place the baby on his mother’s womb, so that he can continue to feel her warmth and heartbeat. He then recommends cutting the umbilical cord only when it has stopped beating. In his view, this facilitates the transition to pulmonary respiration, making it less traumatic.
Frédérick Leboyer adds that the most important thing is to give mother and child time to « be together ». He adds that excessive noise, sudden movements and bright lights are not welcome when a child is born. He also explains that breathing techniques can help reduce the pain of childbirth.
Frédérick Leboyer asserts that the relationship between mother and child is a loving one, and that it is this relationship that should be prioritized when the child arrives.
We quickly and totally embraced this vision and decided to make it our own, starting to massage our first child and thinking about how to organize ourselves so that future births would be a sacred moment worthy of the utmost respect.…
In fact, our fertile couple has largely put into practice the simple principles suggested by Frédérick Leboyer. With each new birth, we calm our minds with synchronized breathing as a couple, and enter into a relationship with the child during the time of opening (the name we use for the phase commonly referred to as « labor »). As the births take place in our strict conjugal intimacy, we have control over the atmosphere in which the child is welcomed : subdued lighting, silence, respect for both mother and child, newborn held against the mother’s womb as soon as he comes out, late severing of the cord,… This allows us to make this event a sacred moment.
Thank you Frédérick Leboyer for your magnificent books and videos. Your vision of welcoming babies without violence helped and inspired us. It showed us the direction we wanted to follow in our hearts. It gave us the courage and strength to offer our babies a birth with all the respect they deserve, by choosing to welcome them in the gentleness, peace and intimacy of our married love.
We hope that the DVD and the book we have created with love, patience and perseverance in order to share our experience will in turn become a help and a source of inspiration for future parents who wish to offer their babies a respectful and happy birth.
« Offering my baby a birth with all the Respect and Love he deserves…
and thus building in his subconscious
a positive imprint of confidence in oneself and in life
that will stay with him forever.. »
This article was written by Claire Loiseleur who is mother of eleven children all born in conjugal intimacy by choosing to offer our babies a birth with all the respect and love they deserve and co-author of the book:
GIVING BIRTH NATURALLY AND FREELY AS A COUPLE
Our journey to welcome eleven children in Peace, Respect and Love
This book is being translated. Thank you for your patience.
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The book AUTONOMOUS NATURAL CHILDBIRTH AS A COUPLE is part of the Lights for a New World books presented on the Youtube channel and Facebook page entitled : Lights for a New World
The expression « Lights for a New World » is explained on the following page :
What I call the New World is an ideal world in which we dream of living, which means a better world, a more beautiful world, a fairer world, a more harmonious world, a more pleasant world to live in and, ultimately, a happier world. A world free of fear and ego games. A world governed by the forces of authentic, unconditional and universal love. A world where peace, joy, tolerance and benevolence have become the norm.
Gandhi said : « Be the change you want to see in the world », and it’s up to each of us to act at our own level to build this New World right now. Let’s stop criticizing everything we don’t like on this Earth: it’s a waste of time and energy!
Let’s put on our glasses of love, and together, let’s be the courageous builders of a better world, more and more in line with the ideal we feel in our hearts, knowing that, as Albert Schweitzer said: « The ideal remains for us what a star is for the sailor. It cannot be reached, but it remains a guide. »
