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Autonomous Natural Childbirth as a couple
For a birth without violence
Tribute to Frédérick Leboyer, pioneer of respectful birth
In the days following the birth of our first child, we discovered a book entitled “Birth Without Violence” written by Frédérick Leboyer, a French obstetrician-gynecologist who developed a gentle childbirth method he described as “without violence”, allowing the newborn to come into the world without trauma.
Frédérick Leboyer focuses on the baby’s well-being and details the gestures that should be performed so that this “odyssey at the end of which the child enters the world” is experienced without violence.
He emphasizes that the first gesture should be to place the child on the mother’s belly, so that they continue to feel her warmth and heartbeat. He then recommends cutting the umbilical cord only when it has stopped pulsating. According to him, this gesture facilitates the transition to pulmonary breathing and makes it less traumatic.
Frédérick Leboyer specifies that the most important thing is to allow time for the mother and child to “be together”. He adds that excessive noise, abrupt movements, and overly bright lights are not welcome when a child is born. He also explains that, through breathing techniques, a woman can manage to reduce the pain of childbirth.
Frédérick Leboyer asserts that the relationship between mother and child is a loving one, and that it is this relationship that should be prioritized when the child arrives.
We quickly and completely embraced this vision and decided to make it our own by beginning to massage our first child and reflecting on how to organize ourselves so that future births would be sacred moments worthy of the greatest respect.
In fact, our fertile couple has extensively put into practice the simple principles proposed by Frédérick Leboyer. With each new birth, we calm our minds by breathing in sync as a couple and connect with the child during the opening time (the name we use for the phase commonly called “labor”). Since births take place in our strict marital intimacy, we have control over the atmosphere in which the child is welcomed: dim lighting, silence, respect for mother and child, newborn kept against the mother’s belly as soon as born, delayed cord cutting… This allows us to make this event a sacred moment.
Thank you Frédérick Leboyer for the magnificent works (books and videos) that you had created. Your vision of welcoming babies without violence has greatly helped and inspired us. It showed us the direction we wanted to follow in our hearts. It gave us the courage and strength to offer our babies a birth with all the respect they deserve by choosing to welcome them in gentleness, peace and the intimacy of our conjugal love.
We hope that the works we have created with love, patience and perseverance in order to share our experience will in turn become a help and source of inspiration for future parents who also wish to offer their baby a respectful and happy birth.
“Offering my baby a birth with all the Respect and Love he deserves…
and thus building in his subconscious
a positive imprint of confidence in oneself and in life
that will stay with him forever..”
This article was written by Claire Loiseleur who is mother of eleven children all born in conjugal intimacy by choosing to offer our babies a birth with all the respect and love they deserve and co-author of the book:
AUTONOMOUS NATURAL CHILDBIRTH AS A COUPLE
Our journey of welcoming eleven children in Peace, Respect and Love
This book is being translated. Thank you for your patience.
Tout en musique et en couleurs, avec beaucoup de légendes et d’explications en voix off, le DVD VIVRE NATURELLEMENT ET PAISIBLEMENT LA NAISSANCE complète merveilleusement bien les enseignements du livre L’ACCOUCHEMENT NATUREL AUTONOME VÉCU EN COUPLE. Il est offert sous forme d’un lien de téléchargement de la vidéo à toute personne ayant acheté le livre.
VIVRE NATURELLEMENT ET PAISIBLEMENT LA NAISSANCE
La magie d’une naissance vécue dans la douceur, la paix et l’intimité de l’amour conjugal
Témoignage de Claire et Christophe à l’occasion de la naissance de leur neuvième enfant
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The book AUTONOMOUS NATURAL CHILDBIRTH AS A COUPLE is part of the Lights for a New World books presented on the Youtube channel and Facebook page entitled : Lights for a New World
The expression « Lights for a New World » is explained on the following page :
What I call the New World is an ideal world in which we dream of living, which means a better world, a more beautiful world, a fairer world, a more harmonious world, a more pleasant world to live in and, ultimately, a happier world. A world free of fear and ego games. A world governed by the forces of authentic, unconditional and universal love. A world where peace, joy, tolerance and benevolence have become the norm.
Gandhi said : « Be the change you want to see in the world », and it’s up to each of us to act at our own level to build this New World right now. Let’s stop criticizing everything we don’t like on this Earth: it’s a waste of time and energy!
Let’s put on our glasses of love, and together, let’s be the courageous builders of a better world, more and more in line with the ideal we feel in our hearts, knowing that, as Albert Schweitzer said: « The ideal remains for us what a star is for the sailor. It cannot be reached, but it remains a guide. »
